love?

On love…(reaction to charmie’s entry)

I don’t recall any lesson in Th131 about love and neither am I an expert or experienced on this topic, but yes, I think genuine love exists without commitment but commitment can exist without genuine love.

Other people can easily know (and say) that they are in love. It really amazes me how people can say with all conviction that they already love a person. I really don’t know how. I mean, I don’t really know the difference between love, admiration/infatuation and just simply liking a person.

Mike and I had a conversation about this last December. We were talking about “his past” and finally, we reached the old-age question of “how do you know that you are in really in love?” or “how do you know na siya na?” Is it subjective? Does it differ from person A to person B? Is it up to one’s own definition of love?

I don’t know. :)

But somehow I can say (with all conviction :) ) that I have never fell in love.
I had my own share of crushes (example, kuya Bel :) haha) and guys that I liked (e.g. hmmm…wag na lang. haha)

And sometimes it is hard to tell the difference: Are you just caught up in the “cloud nine” feeling or is it for real? Is this temporary or will it last for eternity?

Sometimes people become cynical about love because of past hurts, sorrows, heartaches, betrayals etc… You are lucky if the other person feel the same way but more often than not, happily ever after are just for fairytales. The person may not reciprocate the love that you have and you just end up being hurt. Or sometimes you are already in a relationship but circumstances breaks the relationship apart and you end up being alone again…

Now, that I think about it, ang hirap pala…

But am I cynical?

No.

Just avoiding being hurt?

Maybe.

Afraid of commitment?

Maybe.

Now why am I saying this?

There’s a song that goes, “maybe sometimes love just aint enough..”

I think there is a line that separates love and commitment.

You may love someone “with all your heart” but love is not enough to commit. I totally agree to Charms. :) Love may be the foundation to start and build a relationship but still the commitment will make the relationship last forever. I know two people who are in love with each other...they are bestfriends. They are together all the time. Only the two of them can really understand each other. Yet they choose not to go "to the next level". Sabi sakin nung girl, hindi naman sila nagmamadali... and commitment is really something that you must think about before jumping into one.

In your old age, love may fade, attraction will definitely die but in the end, commitment will still make a couple “a couple” for more than just a couple of years… :)

Ngayon? Hmmm…masaya na muna ako sa ganito. ayoko munang maging komplikado ang buhay ko…ang totoo, gusto ko yung ganitong set-up. haha